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Zen and the Art of Lost and Found
We attempt to hide our pain from us and from others, especially our
significant others.
We attempt to hide us from us.
Being denied our basic child dependency needs:
· We dwell in shame … plagued with dependency
problems.
· Normal needs and urges become attempts to fill the empty self.
· The need for fun and excitement become addictions to
intensity.
· The need for attention becomes acting out or acting
in or transfer and projection on to others … we say they are the ones with
the problem or are needy, when it is really about us.
· The need for self-esteem becomes arrogance.
· The need for nourishment (especially ... psychological,
spiritual, social and emotional) becomes our eating disorders.
· The need for understanding becomes compulsive demanding.
· The need for security becomes obsessive worrying and
desolation.
· The need for self-care becomes isolated narcissism.
· The need for relationship becomes desperation.
· The need for intimacy becomes enmeshment.
· Our sexual needs become shame, compulsion, fear, confusion
and jealousy.
· The need for identity becomes an over identification with
the responses to our childhood hurts.
We over identify with the
labels of pathology … of appearing to know what it is that causes
us to do whatever it is that we do … when it is really us talking about us when
we talk about the pathologies.
These pathologies are merely
windows to a lost childhood.
· Addiction(s) is a
window to the hurting child.
· Hopelessness is a
window to the loss of self hood or undeveloped self hood.
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