23 and a Half, Zen and the Art of Lost and Found

23 and a Half

Zen and the Art of Lost and Found

Secrets, Melodrama And Misdirection Are Our Livelihood

Secrets and Melodrama are our livelihood, they are our stock and trade. We are good at manufacturing them and we are good at keeping them and we are good at misdirecting others away from the truth so the truth won’t be noticed and so we can safeguard our own little world.  We are good at demanding that others adhere to our need for them to keep our secrets, because we know that without them keeping our secrets … none of the melodrama that we believe we so desperately need … would exist … really. 

Secrets, Melodrama And Misdirection Are Almost Like Substance That We Abuse.

All this need for secrecy and melodrama is fostered by our sense of low self-esteem.  Secrecy and melodrama is the evidence that we are not in denial, that we are, in fact, in delusion. 

Denial is said to be a place in our consciousness where we know what the truth is and we simply won’t admit it out loud to anyone.  Whereas: delusion is a place in our consciousness where we really believe our own melodrama …it’s real as far as we are concerned …thus the need for secrecy and melodrama. 

It Is A Form Of Denial We Really Believe.

We hide behind our phoniness, our social images, our bodily images and we hope against hope that we really can beguile people into believing our fantasy as real. 

It follows that the basis for most if not all of our relationships is:

I’ll believe you are who you think you are, if you believe I am who it is that I believe I am. 

Unfortunately, the truth of the matter is that we only fool and trick ourselves, and the intrinsic problem seemingly lost in all this is; we can only do that trick and fool thing for short periods in time before we begin to do serious damage to ourselves.  The only ones who are seemingly deceived by our antics are those who have a vested interest in not being found out for themselves; not being found out so their world maintains the impression … delusion … of being safe … for them, and they are in the role they say they are and thus feel safe.  That does not mean safe by the way, the key word phrase in that sentence is Feels Safe.

You see the problem don’t you?