Zen
and the Art of Seeing Clearly Perhaps for the First Time …
A series of 28 short essays
on health and healing … as a direction not an event …
EXPERIENCE has taught us that[1] the process
of being out of touch with our true feelings induces grandiosity and
compulsivity.
Grandiosity and
compulsivity are clear symptoms that the demon is quietly waiting, (quietly
waiting for opportunity to arise and act out in your life) and that the
core problems have yet to be addressed. This insight often comes forward during
some form of counseling or intimate sharing; it is generally when we get the
first indicator that something is hiding in our blind spots and is having a
profound effect on our lives.
Often it gets
pointed out to us that we really don’t have friends or that our primary
relationships are becoming progressively more non-intimate or . . . and there
are hundreds of “or’s,” and our journey does not truly begin until we begin to
notice.
It is a given in
this business that paradox is a factor in dealing with life on life’s
terms …
Coming to terms
with making my worst feared foe my friend and
confident is a lot like leaning into the proverbial left hook.
When one comes to
terms with the paradox that codependency was once our adversary but now it
needs to swing from foe to ally and as our ally can be called upon at any time
for wise counsel … wise counsel being defined as applications of wisdom
picked up on the journey through life … when we are able to be in that place in our
consciousness … of applying our wizened experience to our next circumstance …
life takes on a richer, deeper meaning.
With the
experience of codependency as counselor or mentor, there seems to
naturally develop an awareness of the value of time and an appreciation of life
in all its many twists and turns. Love
takes on a dynamic most would not have imagined … but … and this is the
hurdle we must all get over … but … only if we are willing to face the demon
of codependency sitting there in the middle of the path … right there
obstructing our journey. If we shy away
from the demon-on-the-path, we deprive ourselves of any possibility of
gaining its’ wise counsel in our future dealings with life … and it
follows that we will always be lacking somewhat in the expression of our
love and our interplay with all the intricacies of life … lacking the necessary
clarity we will need to be able to see and appreciate life and love … to its
fullest potential.
I quote from Peck
“When we shy away from … … the ever changing nature of things,
we inevitably shy away from life[2] .”
Answer More Of These in Your Journal … In Long Hand[3]
27) What crisis brought you to a point of
considering a recovery process?
28) What situation specifically led you to formally want to begin the
work of the Steps?
29) When did you first recognize your behaviour
as your problem?
30) Did you try to correct it?
31) If so, how?
32) If not, why not?
Noticing and Accepting
Are Two Different Places In My
Consciousness And Should Never Be Confused With Each Other … They Are The
Stepping Stones To Wise Counsel
For your Journal … It was late afternoon when I came upon
this place; (be that real or imagined) … tell the story of this place and tell
the story of your experience there; in long hand, in your journal …
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