Tuesday, January 18, 2011

15 Principles ... Understanding Me While Being We

First Principle

Live Life to the fullest ... I have lived with people who do just that and it is that effort that underlies most everything both they and I attempt to do ... Sounds simple. But just how does one get there from here.

Second Principle

“Trust” is about value, not about pain reduction, not about expectations ... this can slip and slide through misunderstanding into the manifestation of all my fears ... “Trust” is about “what has real value” ... not necessarily what I imagine it to be.

Third Principle

Know Thy Self
To Me Means:

Fourth Principle

You are responsible for you ...
Not for your partner ...
Just You!
Your partner is not responsible for you.

Fifth Principle

Spirit and Spiritual
To Me Means:

Sixth Principle

To be Self Soothing
To Me Means:

Seventh Principle

An Exercise To Take You Into Your Future
What Beliefs Do I Follow That Lift Me Up?
What Beliefs Do I Follow That Bring Me Down?
What Beliefs Do I Follow That Are Based In Truth?
Which Of Those Beliefs Are Based On Lies?

When I notice there is something out of balance, something that brings me down, something that is a lie or out of line with the Way of Things, then there are only two things that are necessary.

First, make up a new rule/belief that encompasses you being uplifted. Then Do It.

Second, say to yourself or to whoever may be present:

I’m Sorry
Please Forgive Me
I Love You
The important thing is that you offer this up to your own soul first.

You Act Your Way Into A New Way Of Thinking ...
Not Think Your Way Into a New Way of Acting

Eighth Principle

Theirs and Mine
Complimentary / Confrontational

Ninth Principle

EXPERIENCE has taught us that there are PRINCIPLES OF SHARING. I can use these principles to find out more about my world and myself.

A. Most of my partner’s criticisms of me have some basis in reality. (Note the words ‘some basis’; no one said ‘total basis’ by any stretch of the imagination.)
B. Many of my repetitious, emotional criticisms of my partner are disguised statements of my own unmet needs. Of course the same is true for my partner. (Note: the key phrase in this statement is my own unmet needs.)
C. Some of my repetitive, emotional criticisms of my partner may be an accurate description of a disowned part of me. My Blind Spots.
D. Some of my criticisms of my partner may help me identify my own lost self.

One must remember this is not about liking what you see, this is about discovering what is hidden in plain sight.

Tenth Principle
Hope is shared amongst us all.

It is a universal human experience which brings us together in our diversity and at the same time is a personal experience which shows differently for everyone.

Hope is a quality which is found in the stories of peoples' lives ... not in analysis of the situation. Our news media draws us to the tragedies and melodrama of life but we as individuals have the choice to look in another direction.

It is a complex human quality which:
o -is rooted in our past experiences;
o -has an orientation to the future;
o -is expressed in how we live today.

Eleventh Principle
The Way of Things

Conflict in social interaction comes in many forms: brute force, implacable institutions, and internal divisions among one's friends, fellow workers and family. If there is to be an opening in any situation, a way through to resolution, we are going to have to be willing to listen to what we have to say to ourselves about others and ourselves, (Ninth Principle) and at the same time not be caught in the reactive nature that has brought us to this impasse in the first place. Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements ... “Don’t Take Things Personally.”

Insights don't come easily, as you probably are discovering. It takes a great deal of strength to detach yourself from who you think you are and be honest. After all, we all have vested interests in whom and what we think we are and what is going on around us. What is going on around us is the stuff that gives us our definitions of who we think we are. We tend to seek out those situations, people and events that support what we have come to think about ourselves in the first place.

It’s a cycle. Nothing more, nothing less.

Twelfth Principle
Your imagination is what is creating your reality.
This is True.

Curiosity motivates us to do something with what we imagine.
This is very a powerful concept.
In fact one of the most Powerful things you own.
This Also is True.
Imagination is a force that can actually manifest reality.
You Job is to Use It Wisely

Wisdom Comes From Experience Not Books
Imagine That!

Thirteenth Principle (Expanded)

The respect of and for your team, your partners (Life and Business) is more important than all the laurels the world can provide.

Don't put limitations on yourself.

Don’t think yourself into a place that stops you before you start.

Stay Away From “I Can’t.”
It doesn’t work very Well.

Learn to speak your Feelings as they are.

Know this:
Being Nice is Not a Nice Thing to do, especially when you do it to yourself.

Others will put limitations on you.
They will drop their stuff and their opinions on you.
on’t take it personally.
And more importantly: don't do it to yourself.
Remember This:
Your best Thinking may not be your best Friend.
Don't bet against you before you start.

Learn to speak up and speak out.
Not your opinions ... your feelings.

Fourteenth Principle
Take Risks

”Failure is not an option”
This Statement Is Not True.
Failure has to be an option for life to be rich.


It is in the “leap of faith” that Risk Taking Entails
It is here in that space of conscious awareness that life gains its flavour.
Life and its richness is embodied in the attempting to do
what you've never done before.
So failure has to be an option
But fear is not.

Fifteenth Principle

Arthur C. Clarke

The only way of discovering the limits of the “possible”
Is to venture a little way past them into the “impossible”.

Taken from A Course In Miracles ... Manuel for Teachers ... Page 9 ... On Trust ... Foundation for Inner Peace ...

Taken from Experience Has Taught Us 175 Missing Pieces Published Bright Star Press Author Neil Douglas-Tubb

Adapted from How Can I Help ... Ram Dass and Paul Gorman ... Publisher ... Knopf

From Quotes by Arthur C Clarke ... author ... futurist ... visionary

Adapted From Quotes by Arthur C Clarke ...

From Quotes by Arthur C Clarke ... author ... futurist ... visionary

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